粑粑麻麻丨“快点快点快点……”你还在催促孩子吗？小心害了孩子！
<section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com" style="font-size: 16px;"><section data-role="outer" label="Powered by 135editor.com"><section data-role="paragraph" class="_135editor" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;"><section class="_135editor" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;"><p style="text-align: left; text-indent: 2em;" dir="rtl"><span style="color: #3F3F3F; text-align: left; text-indent: 2em; background-color: #B6E4FD;">当孩子小时，我们经常会说“慢慢吃”、“慢慢跑”、“慢慢玩”……当孩子稍微大一点时，我们就开始了长达一生的催促，“快点穿衣服”、“快点吃饭”、“快点写作业”……究竟是孩子太慢了？还是父母太快了？</span><br/></p><section class="_135editor" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="92245" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;"><section data-role="paragraph" class="_135editor" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;"><p><br/></p></section></section></section><p style="line-height: 2em;text-indent: 0em;text-align: center;"><img class="" data-ratio="0.6773547094188377" src="data/attachment/forum/201803/27/150920ezbj8msgbsvr6eag.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="499" height="197" style="width: 291px;height: 197px;" width="291"/></p><p style="line-height: 2em;text-indent: 2em;"><br/></p><p style="line-height: 2em;text-indent: 2em;"><span style="color: #3F3F3F;">部分父母在婴儿期就开始比快！出牙要快，学会走路要快，学会说话要快！快的就是好的。父母像<span style="line-height: 25.6px;white-space: pre-wrap;">旋</span>螺一样转，也要带着孩子一起转！</span></p><p style="line-height: 2em;text-indent: 2em;"><span style="color: #3F3F3F;"><br/></span></p><section class="_135editor" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="91210" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;"><section data-role="paragraph" class="_135editor" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;" data-color="#b6e4fd" data-custom="#b6e4fd"><section style="padding: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 100%;display: flex;display: -webkit-flex;justify-content: center;-webkit-justify-content: center;align-items: flex-start;" data-width="100%"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;padding: 10px 25px;color: #0573af;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: #b6e4fd;"><span style="color: #2e8ccf;"><strong><span style="font-size: 18px;">停不下来的父母</span></strong></span><span style="color: #3f3f3f;"><strong><span style="font-size: 18px;"></span></strong><strong><span style="font-size: 18px;"></span></strong><strong><span style="font-size: 18px;"></span></strong></span></section><section style="width: 30px;height: 30px;border-radius: 50%;border-width: 5px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(254, 254, 254);font-weight: 800;color: rgb(5, 115, 175);margin-top: -15px;margin-left: -20px;display: -webkit-flex;justify-content: center;align-items: center;font-size: 12px;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(182, 228, 253);"><span style="color: #2e8ccf;"><strong>一</strong></span></section></section></section></section></section><section class="_135editor" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85692" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;" data-color="#f6f9fb" data-custom="#f6f9fb"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;" class="layout"><section style="padding: 10px;box-shadow: rgb(225, 225, 225) 8px 8px 3px 0px;font-size: 1em;line-height: 1.4;white-space: normal;font-family: inherit;text-decoration: inherit;color: rgb(74, 130, 168);border-width: 2px;border-style: dotted;border-color: rgb(252, 252, 252);box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(246, 249, 251);"><section class="135brush" style="color: inherit;border-color: rgb(246, 249, 251);box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="_135editor" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="86438" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;" data-color="#b6e4fd" data-custom="#b6e4fd"><section style="text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;font-size: 14.4px;"><section style="display: inline-block;padding-right: 0.2em;padding-top: 0.5em;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 3em;height: 3em;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(182, 228, 253);padding: 3px;border-radius: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="autonum" style="width: 100%;height: 100%;border-radius: 100%;color: rgb(5, 115, 175);font-size: 25.92px;line-height: 1.4;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(182, 228, 253);" data-width="100%"><span style="font-size: 20px;color: #2e8ccf;"><strong>1</strong></span></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 6px;height: 6px;border-radius: 100%;margin-left: -0.5em;color: #0573af;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: #b6e4fd;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 3px;height: 3px;border-radius: 100%;margin-top: -0.22em;margin-left: 0.1em;color: #0573af;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: #b6e4fd;"></section></section></section></section><p style="text-indent: 2em;line-height: 2em;"><span style="color: #3F3F3F;">很多妈妈说孩子在家写作业磨蹭，一说他就哭；吃饭慢悠悠的，大人急的直接把馒头塞他嘴里；走路慢悠悠的，大人直接提着胳膊拉着走……</span></p><p style="text-indent: 2em;line-height: 2em;"><span style="color: #3F3F3F;">这种催促是因为</span><span style="color: #3f3f3f;line-height: 2em;text-indent: 2em;font-family: inherit;text-decoration: inherit;">父母内心存有焦虑，觉得孩子的慢节奏打乱了自己的节奏，这种失控感会让人焦虑不安，于是反过来打乱孩子的节奏，让孩子的节奏和自己一样。这样一切都在掌握之中，才不会有失控感！</span></p><section class="_135editor" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="86438" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;" data-color="#b6e4fd" data-custom="#b6e4fd"><section style="text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;font-size: 14.4px;"><section style="display: inline-block;padding-right: 0.2em;padding-top: 0.5em;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 3em;height: 3em;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(182, 228, 253);padding: 3px;border-radius: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="autonum" style="width: 100%;height: 100%;border-radius: 100%;color: rgb(5, 115, 175);font-size: 25.92px;line-height: 1.4;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(182, 228, 253);" data-width="100%"><span style="color: #2e8ccf;"><strong><span style="font-size: 20px;">2</span></strong></span></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 6px;height: 6px;border-radius: 100%;margin-left: -0.5em;color: #0573af;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: #b6e4fd;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 3px;height: 3px;border-radius: 100%;margin-top: -0.22em;margin-left: 0.1em;color: #0573af;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: #b6e4fd;"></section></section></section></section><p style="text-indent: 2em;line-height: 2em;"><span style="color: #3F3F3F;">别家孩子成绩优异，而且琴棋书画、吹拉弹唱样样拿的出手。而自家孩子没特长，所以急急匆匆报名各种辅导班和兴趣班，催促孩子学习各项技能！</span></p><p style="text-indent: 2em;line-height: 2em;"><br/></p><p style="line-height: 2em;text-align: center;text-indent: 0em;"><span style="color: #3F3F3F;"><img class="" data-ratio="0.7045951859956237" src="data/attachment/forum/201803/27/150919c999axwzwvvxwib2.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="457" height="204" style="width: 289px;height: 204px;" width="289"/></span></p><p style="text-indent: 2em;line-height: 2em;"><br/></p><p style="text-indent: 2em;line-height: 2em;"><span style="color: #3F3F3F;">这种催促是因为父母认为孩子不能输在起跑线上。这种想法没错，但人生是场马拉松，你见哪个马拉松选手一开始就冲刺？</span></p></section></section></section></section><p><br/></p><section class="_135editor" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="91210" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;"><section data-role="paragraph" class="_135editor" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;" data-color="#b6e4fd" data-custom="#b6e4fd"><section style="padding: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 100%;display: flex;display: -webkit-flex;justify-content: center;-webkit-justify-content: center;align-items: flex-start;" data-width="100%"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;padding: 10px 25px;color: #0573af;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: #b6e4fd;"><span style="font-size: 18px;color: #2e8ccf;"><strong>别再不停的催促</strong></span></section><section style="width: 30px;height: 30px;border-radius: 50%;border-width: 5px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(254, 254, 254);font-weight: 800;color: rgb(5, 115, 175);margin-top: -15px;margin-left: -20px;display: -webkit-flex;justify-content: center;align-items: center;font-size: 12px;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(182, 228, 253);"><span style="color: #2e8ccf;"><strong>二</strong></span></section></section></section></section></section><section class="_135editor" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85692" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;" data-color="#f6f9fb" data-custom="#f6f9fb"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;" class="layout"><section style="padding: 10px;box-shadow: rgb(225, 225, 225) 8px 8px 3px 0px;font-size: 1em;line-height: 1.4;white-space: normal;font-family: inherit;text-decoration: inherit;color: rgb(74, 130, 168);border-width: 2px;border-style: dotted;border-color: rgb(252, 252, 252);box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(246, 249, 251);"><section class="135brush" style="color: inherit;border-color: rgb(246, 249, 251);box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="_135editor" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="86438" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;" data-color="#b6e4fd" data-custom="#b6e4fd"><section style="text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;font-size: 14.4px;"><section style="display: inline-block;padding-right: 0.2em;padding-top: 0.5em;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 3em;height: 3em;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(182, 228, 253);padding: 3px;border-radius: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="autonum" style="width: 100%;height: 100%;border-radius: 100%;color: rgb(5, 115, 175);font-size: 25.92px;line-height: 1.4;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(182, 228, 253);" data-width="100%"><span style="color: #2e8ccf;"><strong><span style="font-size: 20px;">1</span></strong></span></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 6px;height: 6px;border-radius: 100%;margin-left: -0.5em;color: #0573af;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: #b6e4fd;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 3px;height: 3px;border-radius: 100%;margin-top: -0.22em;margin-left: 0.1em;color: #0573af;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: #b6e4fd;"></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" class="_135editor" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;"><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 18px;"><strong><span style="color: #2e8ccf;">影响孩子的身心健康</span></strong></span><br/></p></section><section data-role="paragraph" class="_135editor" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;"><p><br/></p></section><p style="text-indent: 2em;line-height: 2em;"><span style="color: #3f3f3f;">想象一下自己七老八十的情景，然后孩子在旁边一个劲的催着自己快点吃，自己会有什么感觉？成人和孩子的生理不同，孩子有孩子的节奏。当孩子抛弃最舒服、最自然的生活节奏，而去顺应大人的节奏，影响的可不仅是身体激素水平，更严重的是心理健康！</span></p><p style="text-indent: 2em;line-height: 2em;"><span style="color: #3f3f3f;">经常被父母打乱节奏的孩子，通常都有易烦躁、耐性差、反应迟缓、对某些事物过分依赖等特征。一个经常被父母不停催促的孩子，不易获得自信和完整的自我！<br/></span></p><section class="_135editor" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="86438" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;" data-color="#b6e4fd" data-custom="#b6e4fd"><section style="text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;font-size: 14.4px;"><section style="display: inline-block;padding-right: 0.2em;padding-top: 0.5em;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 3em;height: 3em;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(182, 228, 253);padding: 3px;border-radius: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="autonum" style="width: 100%;height: 100%;border-radius: 100%;color: rgb(5, 115, 175);font-size: 25.92px;line-height: 1.4;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(182, 228, 253);" data-width="100%"><span style="font-size: 20px;"><strong><span style="color: #2e8ccf;">2</span></strong></span></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 6px;height: 6px;border-radius: 100%;margin-left: -0.5em;color: #0573af;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: #b6e4fd;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 3px;height: 3px;border-radius: 100%;margin-top: -0.22em;margin-left: 0.1em;color: #0573af;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: #b6e4fd;"></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" class="_135editor" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;"><p style="text-align: center;"><strong><span style="font-size: 18px;color: #2e8ccf;">激发叛逆心理</span></strong><br/></p></section><section data-role="paragraph" class="_135editor" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;"><p><br/></p></section><p style="text-indent: 2em;line-height: 2em;"><span style="color: #3f3f3f;">整天催促孩子快点快点的父母，现在看一下自己的孩子有没有做事很快？没有吧！整天的催促，只会让孩子讨厌，谁愿意和自己讨厌的人一样呀！你不是快吗？那我偏偏要慢！</span><br/></p></section></section></section></section><p style="line-height: 2em;text-indent: 2em;"><br/></p><section class="_135editor" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="91210" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;"><section data-role="paragraph" class="_135editor" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;" data-color="#b6e4fd" data-custom="#b6e4fd"><section style="padding: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 100%;display: flex;display: -webkit-flex;justify-content: center;-webkit-justify-content: center;align-items: flex-start;" data-width="100%"><section style="display: inline-block;width: auto;padding: 10px 25px;color: #0573af;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: #b6e4fd;"><span style="font-size: 18px;color: #2e8ccf;"><strong>怎么处理？</strong></span></section><section style="width: 30px;height: 30px;border-radius: 50%;border-width: 5px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(254, 254, 254);font-weight: 800;color: rgb(5, 115, 175);margin-top: -15px;margin-left: -20px;display: -webkit-flex;justify-content: center;align-items: center;font-size: 12px;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(182, 228, 253);"><span style="color: #2e8ccf;"><strong>三</strong></span></section></section></section></section></section><section class="_135editor" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="85692" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;" data-color="#f6f9fb" data-custom="#f6f9fb"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;" class="layout"><section style="padding: 10px;box-shadow: rgb(225, 225, 225) 8px 8px 3px 0px;font-size: 1em;line-height: 1.4;white-space: normal;font-family: inherit;text-decoration: inherit;color: rgb(74, 130, 168);border-width: 2px;border-style: dotted;border-color: rgb(252, 252, 252);box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(246, 249, 251);"><section class="135brush" style="color: inherit;border-color: rgb(246, 249, 251);box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="_135editor" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="86438" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;" data-color="#b6e4fd" data-custom="#b6e4fd"><section style="text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;font-size: 14.4px;"><section style="display: inline-block;padding-right: 0.2em;padding-top: 0.5em;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 3em;height: 3em;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(182, 228, 253);padding: 3px;border-radius: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="autonum" style="width: 100%;height: 100%;border-radius: 100%;color: rgb(5, 115, 175);font-size: 25.92px;line-height: 1.4;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(182, 228, 253);" data-width="100%"><span style="color: #2e8ccf;"><strong><span style="font-size: 20px;">1</span></strong></span></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 6px;height: 6px;border-radius: 100%;margin-left: -0.5em;color: #0573af;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: #b6e4fd;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 3px;height: 3px;border-radius: 100%;margin-top: -0.22em;margin-left: 0.1em;color: #0573af;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: #b6e4fd;"></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" class="_135editor" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;"><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="color: #2e8ccf;"><strong><span style="font-size: 18px;">如果你觉得孩子磨蹭</span></strong></span></p></section><section data-role="paragraph" class="_135editor" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;"><p><br/></p></section><p style="text-indent: 2em;line-height: 2em;"><span style="color: #3f3f3f;">首先要明确你家孩子是真正的磨蹭，还是你觉得他磨蹭！孩子洗漱、吃饭、收拾东西、走路等速度不应该和成人比，应该和同龄小伙伴比较！如果是孩子的正常速度，就不要强行“提速”！尊重孩子的节奏，给他时间慢慢成长！</span></p><p style="text-indent: 2em;line-height: 2em;"><br/></p><p style="line-height: 2em;text-align: center;text-indent: 0em;"><img class="" data-ratio="0.667296786389414" src="data/attachment/forum/201803/27/150920knn973brj5rb0tbo.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="529" height="192" style="width: 288px;height: 192px;" width="288"/></p><p style="text-indent: 2em;line-height: 2em;"><br/></p><p style="text-indent: 2em;line-height: 2em;"><span style="color: #3f3f3f;">还有一种磨蹭是不愿面对某些事物，比如辅导班或兴趣班，这一种严格来讲不算真正的磨蹭。不喜欢的事物，当然不能欢快的接受，磨蹭也在情理之中。父母此时要和孩子进行沟通交流，找出不喜欢的原因，而不是简单的催促！</span></p><section class="_135editor" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="86438" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;" data-color="#b6e4fd" data-custom="#b6e4fd"><section style="text-align: center;margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;font-size: 14.4px;"><section style="display: inline-block;padding-right: 0.2em;padding-top: 0.5em;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 3em;height: 3em;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(182, 228, 253);padding: 3px;border-radius: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="autonum" style="width: 100%;height: 100%;border-radius: 100%;color: rgb(5, 115, 175);font-size: 25.92px;line-height: 1.4;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(182, 228, 253);" data-width="100%"><strong><span style="font-size: 20px;color: #2e8ccf;">2</span></strong></section></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 6px;height: 6px;border-radius: 100%;margin-left: -0.5em;color: #0573af;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: #b6e4fd;"></section><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;width: 3px;height: 3px;border-radius: 100%;margin-top: -0.22em;margin-left: 0.1em;color: #0573af;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: #b6e4fd;"></section></section></section></section><section data-role="paragraph" class="_135editor" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;"><p style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: 18px;"><strong><span style="color: #2e8ccf;">如果孩子真的磨蹭</span></strong></span><br/></p></section><section data-role="paragraph" class="_135editor" style="border: 0px none; box-sizing: border-box; padding: 0px;"><p><br/></p></section><p style="text-indent: 2em;line-height: 2em;"><span style="color: #3f3f3f;">①接受磨蹭的惩罚</span></p><p style="text-indent: 2em;line-height: 2em;"><span style="color: #3f3f3f;">如果孩子真的磨蹭，那父母不妨让他体验一下迟到的感觉。吃饭速度让他把控、让他收拾书包、迟到了让他自己应对老师的询问，体验一下心灵上的惩罚，以后孩子自己就会调整步伐。</span></p><p style="text-indent: 2em;line-height: 2em;"><span style="color: #3f3f3f;">②适当的引导</span></p><p style="text-indent: 2em;line-height: 2em;"><span style="color: #3f3f3f;">在日常要告诉孩子时间概念，比如去公园玩，可以问孩子需要多长时间呀，那我们几点就要出发呀之类的时间问题，家长控制一下出发的时间，在合理范围内可以等等孩子，但超过了时间，可以取消公园游玩计划。以此方法告诉孩子什么是时间管理以及遵守时间约定的重要性。</span></p></section></section></section></section><p><br/></p><p style="line-height: 2em;text-indent: 0em;text-align: right;"><br/></p><section class="" data-tools="135编辑器" data-id="86006" style="max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;border-width: 0px;border-style: none;border-color: initial;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;padding: 20px;max-width: 100%;border-color: rgb(182, 228, 253);color: rgb(5, 115, 175);box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(182, 228, 253);"><section class="" style="max-width: 100%;border-color: rgb(182, 228, 253);color: inherit;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-indent: 2em;line-height: 1.75em;"><span style="color: #262626;"><span style="color: #3F3F3F;line-height: 32px;white-space: pre-wrap;">高效、快速、忙碌已经成为了成人世界最基本的生活状态，父母承受着来自各个方面的压力，难免会不由自主的要求孩子快快快。但孩子应该有孩子的节奏，而不是提着孩子的胳膊拉着往前走！</span></span></p></section></section></section><section class="_135editor" data-color="#b6e4fd" style="border: 0px none; 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