“妈妈，我不想去上学！”焦虑的孩子，正在毁掉自己的未来
<section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class=""><section class=""><section><p style="text-align: center;"><img data-ratio="1" src="data/attachment/forum/201803/15/151550jii3ddgupd3ztvi2.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="640" width="100%" style="vertical-align: middle; width: 100%;"/><br/></p></section></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p><br/></p><p><img class="" data-copyright="0" data-ratio="0.1275" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201803/15/151550roqkobxqmvxqhxqd.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="800" style=""/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">离开学还有几天，我自己定下寒假放松最后一天，心想，过了今天就开始备战新学期。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">然而，一大早叫醒我的，不是对工作的热情，而是家长的电话。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="display: inline-block;width: 100%;border-width: 0px 0px 0px 1px;border-style: solid;border-left-color: rgb(0, 82, 169);border-right-color: rgb(0, 82, 169);padding: 10px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="font-size: 15px;color: rgb(0, 82, 169);text-align: justify;line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">“今天早上，女儿起床晚了，在床上发脾气，说我和她爸爸没有叫她。”</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">“还有个把星期开学，我们孩子急得上窜下跳。其实她寒假作业做完了，只是预计的其他任务没有完成，主要新学期的课本预习什么的。”</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">“指责完我们后，又开始生闷气。自己一个人在房间里复习，好像也不太顺利。”</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">“突然她就自己发火，对着床就蹦了过去，居然把床板都踩断了。”</p></section></section></section></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">我听完一脸苦笑，给家长和孩子说了些注意劳逸结合之类的话，就挂了。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p><img class="" data-copyright="0" data-ratio="0.1275" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201803/15/151553dwd5w7n5wzzw3d54.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="800" style=""/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">回想起过年的时候，亲戚的孩子跟我吐苦水。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="text-align: center;margin-top: 0.5em;margin-bottom: 0.5em;padding-left: 0.5em;padding-right: 0.5em;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;width: 95%;border-width: 4px;border-style: solid;border-color: white;box-shadow: rgb(102, 102, 102) 3.53553px 3.53553px 8px;display: inline-block;height: auto !important;overflow: hidden !important;"><img data-ratio="1.25" src="data/attachment/forum/201803/15/151552u4szmf1b545kz4ke.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="640" style="vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;" width="100%"/></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">小维算是离我比较远的亲戚了，但他和我却聊得来。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">他是211的大三的学生，已经开始各种外出实习了。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">他说：“我把最最重要的一次实习弄砸了。”</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;text-align: center;transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);-webkit-transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);-moz-transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);-o-transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.6em;height: 0.6em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;opacity: 0.4;background-color: rgb(160, 160, 160);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0.6em;height: 0.6em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;margin-left: 6px;opacity: 0.6;background-color: rgb(160, 160, 160);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0.6em;height: 0.6em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;margin-left: 6px;opacity: 0.8;background-color: rgb(160, 160, 160);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0.6em;height: 0.6em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;margin-left: 6px;background-color: rgb(160, 160, 160);box-sizing: border-box;"></section></section><section class="" style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;margin-left: 2px;color: rgb(255, 202, 0);text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p></section></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">他所在的电气行业，最好的，无非是欧洲企业。平台起点高，薪资待遇好，技术先进成熟，培养机制也不错。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">重要的是，他盯上的企业，如果实习表现好，毕业后很有机会，直接进公司。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">因此，他和一起去的同学们，在去实习之前，非常认真地准备。从基础知识，到公司文化，生怕遗漏了某个细节。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">他们甚至会熬夜——他们认为可能会出现高强度工作，必须提前适应。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">后来，公司通知他们，由于想去实习的人太多，进公司之前会有一个面试，来筛选掉一部分人。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">他们更加认真，也更加紧张了，熬夜会熬到4、5点。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">到了面试的时候，他们大部分人都被筛选掉了，包括小维。只有一个人，面试的最后，临时想出来一个点，勉强通过。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;text-align: center;transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);-webkit-transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);-moz-transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);-o-transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.6em;height: 0.6em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;opacity: 0.4;background-color: rgb(160, 160, 160);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0.6em;height: 0.6em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;margin-left: 6px;opacity: 0.6;background-color: rgb(160, 160, 160);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0.6em;height: 0.6em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;margin-left: 6px;opacity: 0.8;background-color: rgb(160, 160, 160);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0.6em;height: 0.6em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;margin-left: 6px;background-color: rgb(160, 160, 160);box-sizing: border-box;"></section></section><section class="" style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;margin-left: 2px;color: rgb(255, 202, 0);text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p></section></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: #0052A9;">原来，公司的面试，主要考察的是创意，而非基础知识，更不是企业文化。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">然而，他们去面试的时候，由于前一天太紧张了，有的人熬夜复习了很久，有的人没复习也睡不着。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">到了第二天，都有点昏昏欲睡，表面上看起来还好。可真要认真想出创意点来，都感觉力不从心。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">被淘汰的自然就是他们了。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="text-align: center;margin-top: 0.5em;margin-bottom: 0.5em;padding-left: 0.5em;padding-right: 0.5em;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;width: 95%;border-width: 4px;border-style: solid;border-color: white;box-shadow: rgb(102, 102, 102) 3.53553px 3.53553px 8px;display: inline-block;height: auto !important;overflow: hidden !important;"><img data-ratio="1.25" src="data/attachment/forum/201803/15/151552tbzxqxnbidxliz0x.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="640" style="vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;" width="100%"/></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: #0052A9;">唯一进去的同学也说，到了实际工作中，和学校学到的完全不是一回事，都需要重新学起。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">之前准备的那些理论知识，大多都用不上。公司里也没有他们想象中的熬夜工作，甚至都没有加班。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"> </p><p><img class="" data-copyright="0" data-ratio="0.1275" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201803/15/151550bmt4om82jhzmmm8t.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="800" style=""/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">踹断床的学生，还有熬夜准备的小维，都陷入了“我没有准备好”的焦虑中。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">他们总觉得，面临新的学期，新的实习，我还没有准备好。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">在他们看来，似乎少了那多睡的几分钟，少了熬夜的那几个晚上，就会导致失败。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"> </p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">然而，现实中并没有这样的因果关联。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="text-align: center;margin-top: 0.5em;margin-bottom: 0.5em;padding-left: 0.5em;padding-right: 0.5em;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;width: 95%;border-width: 4px;border-style: solid;border-color: white;box-shadow: rgb(102, 102, 102) 3.53553px 3.53553px 8px;display: inline-block;height: auto !important;overflow: hidden !important;"><img data-ratio="1.25" src="data/attachment/forum/201803/15/151551np7591c8611xo7ac.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="640" style="vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;" width="100%"/></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">前不久以36岁半的年龄，夺得第20个大满贯的网球运动员费德勒曾经说过：<span style="color: #0052A9;box-sizing: border-box;">“我永远不会觉得自己准备好了”，“但我会用现在的、最好的自己去面对比赛”。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">面对未知的、复杂的未来，面对明天令人窒息的比赛，谁也没有把握说：我准备好了。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"> </p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">事实上，在网球运动中，尤其是高水平比赛中，哪怕你赛前研究再多对手的录像，准备再多节奏的套路。你总会发现，对手总能打出不一样的打法，使用自己意想不到的节奏。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"> </p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">有些球 ，你觉得对手打不回来，可对手偏偏能打到你接不到的位置。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">有些面试，你觉得面试官不会问，可他偏偏要为难你。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"> </p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">这才是残酷的、令人尴尬的现实。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"> </p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">那是否意味着，我们只能一直焦虑下去呢？</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">并不是，恰恰相反，焦虑才是最有害的部分。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p><img class="" data-copyright="0" data-ratio="0.1275" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201803/15/151551yxux6vhaa6qa62uz.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="800" style=""/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">焦虑令我们踹断床板；令我们面试时想不出创意点；令我们打球时肌肉紧张，无法伸展。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">没有完全准备好，不一定会让我们失败。而焦虑，却很可能令我们一败涂地。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"> </p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">我们要如何应对止不住的焦虑？</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"> </p></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="text-align: center;margin-top: 0.5em;margin-bottom: 0.5em;padding-left: 0.5em;padding-right: 0.5em;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;width: 95%;border-width: 4px;border-style: solid;border-color: white;box-shadow: rgb(102, 102, 102) 3.53553px 3.53553px 8px;display: inline-block;height: auto !important;overflow: hidden !important;"><img data-ratio="1.25" src="data/attachment/forum/201803/15/151551xtut0nzy0buof417.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="640" style="vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;" width="100%"/></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">有的人看见，费德勒总能打出令对手猝不及防的好球；有的人听见，林肯、丘吉尔在台上，面对台下万千民众，依然镇定自若慷慨陈词；有的人佩服，古往今来的名将，面对千军万马，依然不动如泰山。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">他们不会说自己准备好了，他们会紧张，但他们不会焦虑到，影响自己的正常行动。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">因此，首先你要明白，不论你是否着急，到了第二天，<span style="color: #0052A9;">哪怕要上战场，你还是你自己。</span>你可以选择做最好的自己，或者最坏的自己。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">但如果你选择焦虑，你就无法超越自己。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="margin-top: 10px;margin-bottom: 10px;text-align: center;transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);-webkit-transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);-moz-transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);-o-transform: translate3d(1px, 0px, 0px);box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: top;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;margin-bottom: 2px;box-sizing: border-box;"><section style="width: 0.6em;height: 0.6em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;opacity: 0.4;background-color: rgb(160, 160, 160);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0.6em;height: 0.6em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;margin-left: 6px;opacity: 0.6;background-color: rgb(160, 160, 160);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0.6em;height: 0.6em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;margin-left: 6px;opacity: 0.8;background-color: rgb(160, 160, 160);box-sizing: border-box;"></section><section style="width: 0.6em;height: 0.6em;display: inline-block;vertical-align: middle;margin-left: 6px;background-color: rgb(160, 160, 160);box-sizing: border-box;"></section></section><section class="" style="display: inline-block;vertical-align: bottom;margin-left: 2px;color: rgb(255, 202, 0);text-align: left;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p></section></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: #0052A9;font-size: 15px;letter-spacing: 1px;text-align: justify;">其次，不要太高估你的对手。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">其实，我最想对踹床的学生说的是：你的小伙伴们，根本没有你想象的那么努力！</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">每年，在假期前后，我都对班上的学生进行过统计。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">假期前，统计他们每天计划学习的时间。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">假期后，统计他们真正达到了多少时间。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">假期前，大家都信誓旦旦地说每天要学习8、9个小时，填10个小时的我也司空见惯。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">到了放假后再统计，家长反映回来的都是，每天2、3个小时。有的学生集中在放假前面几天或者最后几天完成寒暑假作业。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">我见过最过分的是，家长告诉我，他们家孩子放假第一天写了个通宵，第二天他们翻作业已经做完了，然后再也没见他碰过书本。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">大概统计了一下比例，学习时间超过自己预期的几乎没有（包括那些焦虑的孩子，他们都填一天学习12个小时），几乎持平的大概20%左右。剩下的70%多，都是大幅落后于自己的预期。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">因此，不管是学生眼里的小伙伴，还是父母心目中的别人家的孩子。都没有我们自己想出来的那么努力，尤其是在小学初中的时候。<span style="color: #0052A9;">有几个孩子不是贪玩的呢？</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="text-align: center;margin-top: 0.5em;margin-bottom: 0.5em;padding-left: 0.5em;padding-right: 0.5em;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;width: 95%;border-width: 4px;border-style: solid;border-color: white;box-shadow: rgb(102, 102, 102) 3.53553px 3.53553px 8px;display: inline-block;height: auto !important;overflow: hidden !important;"><img data-ratio="1.25" src="data/attachment/forum/201803/15/151551qf6ccyfsccss9xig.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="640" style="vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;" width="100%"/></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">事实上，调查的结果显示：在学习好的学生中间，假期一般的学习时长是，每天3个小时左右。是的，所谓的尖子生们，每天3个小时的高效学习就足够。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">你还会觉得，你的对手，是靠每天12个小时的准备，来和你竞争的吗？</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">面试官在有的地方，还没有你专业。而你对面的对手，节奏也经常不好，找不到击球的感觉。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"> </p><p><img class="" data-copyright="0" data-ratio="0.1275" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201803/15/151552xxxphgz3f9pjx0qd.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="800" style=""/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">我们要怎样做最好的自己？</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">平时准备要细水长流。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="text-align: center;margin-top: 0.5em;margin-bottom: 0.5em;padding-left: 0.5em;padding-right: 0.5em;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;width: 95%;border-width: 4px;border-style: solid;border-color: white;box-shadow: rgb(102, 102, 102) 3.53553px 3.53553px 8px;display: inline-block;height: auto !important;overflow: hidden !important;"><img data-ratio="1.25" src="data/attachment/forum/201803/15/151552i0mjqmwhomq6mmhs.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="640" style="vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;" width="100%"/></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">我们总能看到，费德勒在场上打出令人眼花缭乱的接发球，总能用变幻莫测的发球打乱对手的节奏，总能在心理战上将对手置于股掌之中。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">这些都是他十年如一日的积累，他会在平时的训练时，就去思考这些，练习这些击球的方式。他反手有缺陷，他就找教练，练习他的反手。他害怕发球方式太单一，他会创造更多的方式。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><span style="color: #0052A9;">他不会在快比赛时，才会去临时抱佛脚。</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"> </p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">我想说，临场发挥要相信自己。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"> </p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">很多顶尖田径选手，在平时训练时，都从没有打破过记录。然后，在他们上场之后，却总是能创造出令人惊叹的奇迹。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">临场发挥时，人都会有一些紧张。科学研究表明，适度的紧张，有利于人的超常发挥。而太紧张或者太放松，都会导致水平下降。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">因此，你要相信，你在合适的紧张中，能够发挥出最好的自己，乃至超越自己。</p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"> </p></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="text-align: center;margin-top: 0.5em;margin-bottom: 0.5em;padding-left: 0.5em;padding-right: 0.5em;box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;width: 95%;border-width: 4px;border-style: solid;border-color: white;box-shadow: rgb(102, 102, 102) 3.53553px 3.53553px 8px;display: inline-block;height: auto !important;overflow: hidden !important;"><img data-ratio="1.25" src="data/attachment/forum/201803/15/151552b44mm844i973zir9.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="640" style="vertical-align: middle;width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;" width="100%"/></section></section></section><section class="Powered-by-XIUMI V5" style="box-sizing: border-box;" powered-by="xiumi.us"><section class="" style="box-sizing: border-box;"><section class="" style="text-align: justify;font-size: 15px;color: rgb(85, 85, 85);line-height: 1.8;letter-spacing: 1px;padding-right: 8px;padding-left: 8px;box-sizing: border-box;"><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br style="box-sizing: border-box;"/></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;">我又打电话给家长：<span style="color: #0052A9;">让你家孩子别学习了，先带她把床修好了再说，让她自己动手！</span></p><p style="white-space: normal;box-sizing: border-box;"><br/></p><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);word-wrap: break-word !important;"><img class="" data-ratio="0.05278592375366569" src="data/attachment/forum/201803/15/151552hi44ivmdgfbqbmlv.png" data-type="png" data-w="341" style="margin-right: auto;margin-left: auto;letter-spacing: 1px;font-family: 微软雅黑;text-align: center;line-height: 25.6px;display: block;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 160px !important;" width="160"/></section></section></section></section></section> 我还不想上班呢
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