为什么南充人养孩子那么累？七大原因，你中了几个？
<p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br/></p><article data-author="Wxeditor" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">一、对孩子期望太高</span></strong></section><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></span></strong></section></section></section></article><p><br/></p><p><br/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><img class="" data-ratio="0.66796875" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201802/26/152954k7ig27otqoepepc6.jpg" data-type="png" data-w="472" style="box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: auto !important;" width="auto"/><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">在绝大多数有孩子的中国家庭里面，孩子都是中心中的中心。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">父母们整天围着孩子转，事事为孩子打算筹谋，而且这种筹谋，从怀孕起，到整个孕期、孩子出生、孩子上幼儿园、孩子上小学中学高中，直到孩子上大学、孩子工作、孩子结婚、孩子买房、孩子自己生孩子，几乎无一日间断。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">期间是各种操心、各种比较、各种选择、各种纠结、各种倾尽全力、各种力不从心、各种满心希望、各种灰心失望、各种不满、各种早知今日、各种悔不当初，常常是孩子大了，自己也老了，然后又是对孩子回报父母、孝顺父母的各种期待。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">如此心力交瘁地几十年，怎么能不累？</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这么累的根源，就在于爸爸妈妈对孩子的期望太高，既包括对孩子自己发展的期望，也包括对孩子回报父母的期望。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">期望如此之高，压力山大的不但是父母，还有孩子。但是，我们为什么要对孩子期望这么高呢？他能成为独立的、自主的、幸福的成人，不是已经很好了吗？</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">如果爸爸妈妈能够看开这一点，抛开对孩子所有外在功名利禄的期待，关心孩子和父母自己内心的安宁和满足，育儿生活，会轻松很多。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p><br/></p><p><br/></p><article data-author="Wxeditor" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">二、父母之外的人参与太多</span></strong></section></section></section></article><p><br/></p><p><br/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><img class="" data-ratio="0.66796875" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201802/26/152954kzj6nsi1cwzs6cs5.jpg" data-type="png" data-w="471" style="box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: auto !important;" width="471px"/><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我们经常看到，国外的父母，婴儿车上推一个，怀里抱一个，手里还牵一个，两个人，甚至一个人，就能带上一小队娃儿。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">而中国家庭的典型景象，却是一队人，带一个娃，爸爸妈妈呵护着，姥姥姥爷爷爷奶奶伺候着，甚至还跟着个保姆阿姨背着大包小包做后勤支持，排场阵仗，简直能赶得上皇帝出巡。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我们不妨打个比方。一个小家庭，好比是一间公司，原本爸爸妈妈自己应该是全资股东、最高负责人，有各项事务的决策权。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">但不少家庭，接受了来自长辈的各种“投资”——资助买房、伺候月子、帮助带娃等等，于是姥姥、姥爷、爷爷、奶奶因为自己的“投资”，拥有了这个家庭的或多或少的所有权，成为了“股东”。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">既是股东，就要发表意见、参与决策，有的还要求自己有“一票否决权”。这样的治理结构，让原本简单的家庭事务变得复杂无比，作为一家之主的爸爸妈妈，如何能不累？</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">甚至更糟糕的是，有的爸爸妈妈，连一家之主的地位都不保，自己的家庭事务，还需要听凭自己的父母做主，于是大家更是劳心劳力，矛盾丛生。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></span></p><p><br/></p><p><br/></p><article data-author="Wxeditor" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">三、攀比之心过重</span></strong></section></section></section></article><p><br/></p><p><br/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><img class="" data-ratio="0.66796875" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201802/26/152954hoty4t4nzl70h4tp.jpg" data-type="png" data-w="469" style="box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: auto !important;" width="469px"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">别的孩子都上各种各样的辅导班了，我们要不要上？如果不上，孩子会不会输在起跑线上？</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">别的孩子都在吃好几百块一桶的洋奶粉，我们不吃，会不会影响孩子发育？</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">别的孩子都在穿名牌、大牌，我们不买，会不会被笑话很穷？</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">别人、别人、别人……在相当多爸爸妈妈的眼里，时时刻刻都看到太多别人，自己做什么、怎么做，常常以别人做什么、怎么做为准则、指南。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">既要时刻看着别人，自己又要时刻努力跟上，以免掉队，如此怎能不焦虑、不累心？</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">但是，别人是别人，我们是我们，我们自己有自己的原则、有自己的选择、有自己的行为方式，为什么要跟着别人跑呢？</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">相信爸爸妈妈们能看开这一点，育儿之路上的劳心劳力，又会省去很多。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p><br/></p><p><br/></p><article data-author="Wxeditor" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">四、对孩子事务插手太多</span></strong></section></section></section></article><p><br/></p><p><br/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><img class="" data-ratio="0.66796875" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201802/26/152955er4zzrsh42pelfa7.jpg" data-type="png" data-w="475" style="box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 475px !important;" width="auto"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">做父母的，都希望对孩子尽心尽力，但常常是对孩子的事务插手太多，培养出从小到大都不能自主的孩子。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子上学，帮着背书包、记作业；孩子写作业，爸爸妈妈在一旁陪着、盯着；老师布置了什么任务，常常是孩子还没搞清楚要做什么，爸爸妈妈已经奋不顾身地扑上去，帮着孩子完成了。更不用说盯着孩子吃饭、穿衣、洗澡、上厕所这些日常的吃喝拉撒事务。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这样被“照顾”着的孩子，生活中几乎只剩下了上课、上兴趣班这两件事，既发展不出自主学习的能力，也发展不出自主生活的能力，爸爸妈妈就只好一直照顾着、伺候着、累着了。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">只有从小培养孩子自主，包括自主生活、自主学习、自主阅读、自主情感，爸爸妈妈才能做到真正的轻松。这样不是为了偷懒，而是让孩子真正作为一个独立的个体，自由成长，成为更好的自己。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p><br/></p><p><br/></p><article data-author="Wxeditor" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">五、信息过载，缺乏主见</span></strong></section></section></section></article><p><br/></p><p><br/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><img class="" data-ratio="0.66796875" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201802/26/152954i77ac147m4zx9x1f.jpg" data-type="png" data-w="474" style="box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: 474px !important;" width="auto"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">中国爸妈养孩子累，除了上面说的这些原因，还有一个不是那么明显，但是很确定存在的原因，就是接触过多信息，但对如何育儿，缺乏主见。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这里看到孩子需要胎教，就赶紧去学着做胎教；那里看到孩子需要早教，就赶紧带着孩子去上各种各样的早教班；</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这里看到新生儿需要游泳锻炼，就带着娃去婴儿游泳馆；那里看到孩子要补这个补那个，就赶紧去买给孩子吃。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">大量的时间和精力，都花在搜集尽可能多的信息，然后跟着这些信息东奔西跑上了。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">育儿生活中需要做一定程度的“断舍离”——我们其实并不需要那么多的信息，更重要的是通过自主的阅读、学习，形成自己的“主见”——我知道什么样的方法是好的，我知道自己该怎么做，我知道自己的哪些做法要坚持，哪些方法要调试。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这样，既不需要被过载的信息冲击、淹没，又能够在育儿生活中采取简洁、有效、恒定的方式，整个过程，会简单、轻松很多。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p><br/></p><p><br/></p><article data-author="Wxeditor" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">六、爸爸参与过少</span></strong></section></section></section></article><p><br/></p><p><br/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">有一个很犀利的说法，叫“丧偶式育儿”，说的是爸爸不参与育儿、缺席孩子成长的状况。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">爸爸不参与带孩子，带孩子是妈妈一个人的事儿，恐怕是不少中国家庭的常态，也是相当多妈妈觉得带孩子累得不行的重要原因。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">“爸妈合作”带娃，既分担育儿生活中的具体工作，也共同讨论关于孩子的各种大小问题，得出一致见解，然后一起付诸行动。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这样做的好处，一是工作量通过分担得以减轻，二是孩子与父母两个人，都可以建立起亲密关系，当然更重要的是，父母的共同陪伴，让孩子的心理和人格，发展得更健康、健全。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p><br/></p><p><br/></p><article data-author="Wxeditor" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><section style="max-width: 100%;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">七、消费不够理性，造成过大经济压力</span></strong></section></section></section></article><p><br/></p><p><br/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><img class="" data-ratio="0.66796875" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201802/26/152954kg5cjhvtpwzflzny.jpg" data-type="png" data-w="471" style="box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;width: auto !important;" width="auto"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">养孩子累，最后一个，同时也是最不可回避的一个原因，是经济压力。部分爸妈片面地认为要倾尽全力，给孩子最好的，消费不够理性，造成过大的经济压力。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">有这样一个个案：一位普通工薪族爸爸，给自己三四岁的女儿买一条裙子，就花了700块。700块一条的裙子，当然很可能是品质和设计都很不错的，而且孩子穿起来，可能确实非常漂亮。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">但是，爸爸妈妈不考虑自己的负担能力，一味地如此消费，又能坚持多久，怎么能不感到压力巨大呢？</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">俗话说“一个孩子十亩地”，把孩子从呱呱坠地的小婴儿养育成人，要说一点都不辛苦，肯定不现实，但辛苦不等于压力、疲惫。我们见过带孩子累得不行的父母，也见过不少带娃倍感轻松、愉悦的父母。</span></p><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">养孩子到底累不累？还是要看爸爸妈妈怎么选。如果爸爸妈妈能剔除那些让育儿生活疲惫不堪的因素，相信养育孩子会变成一段相当愉快、美好、轻松的人生旅程。</span></p><p><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #565353;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br/></span></p><p style="text-align: center;"><img src="data/attachment/forum/201802/26/153025cnv06w606wrqcwrz.png" alt="_20180214104030.png" aid="attachimg_636781"/></p>
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