孩子东西被抢，为什么一定要帮他拿回来？
<p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;text-align: right;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br/></p><section label="Copyright © 2016 playhudong All Rights Reserved." donone="shifuMouseDownPayStyle('shifu_t_054')" style="margin: 1em auto;white-space: normal;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-size: 15px;text-align: center;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><section class="ipaiban" style="padding: 3px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(95, 170, 255);border-radius: 50%;display: inline-block;"><section class="ipaiban" style="border-width: 1px;border-style: dashed;border-color: rgb(95, 170, 255);border-radius: 50%;width: 2em;height: 2em;"><p style="padding-top: 0.28em;"><strong>01</strong></p></section></section></section><p style="line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;"><br/></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">闺蜜跟我讲过一件很有意思的事，发生在她家毛毛刚3岁多点儿的时候。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">那天，她家奶奶带着毛毛在小区里玩儿。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">在一棵树下，毛毛捡到一根树枝，上头缀满了有些枯黄的小花。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">正当毛毛陶醉地欣赏自己的新收获时，一个差不多年龄的小女孩走过来，一把夺走他手里的树枝。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">毛毛要咧嘴哭，奶奶立刻安慰说：</span></p><blockquote style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">没事没事，就是一根枯树叉儿，XX姐姐拿过去玩一下，大方点儿啊！</span></strong></span></p></blockquote><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">嗯，没错，闺蜜家跟小女孩家是认识的。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">奶奶碍于情面，同时也是觉得一根树枝的确太微不足道，于是忙着安慰自家孙子。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">她去地上重新又捡了一把树枝去，然而看着奶奶手里的成果，毛毛都摇头。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">他只想要回被夺走的那一根。</span></strong></span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">毛毛的眼睛，死死盯住女孩的手。女孩妈妈开始批评女孩：</span></p><blockquote style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">快还给弟弟，你这样不乖啊！</span></strong></span></p></blockquote><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">女孩不听。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">不仅不听，她还一本正经地对毛毛说：</span></p><blockquote style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">你别难过了，我就玩一下，好朋友要分享啊！</span></strong></span></p></blockquote><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这话一出口，旁边的大人都听乐了，甚至还有人夸这个孩子聪明。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">就是这个这时候，闺蜜从外头回来，正看到自己的小家伙一脸委屈，想哭又不敢，呆呆地站在那里。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">了解了情况后，闺蜜二话没说，就微笑着走到女孩身边，很轻松地就从女孩手里拿回了那根树枝，说：</span></p><blockquote style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">宝贝，这是弟弟的东西，不是你的。</span></strong></span></p></blockquote><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">女孩先是一愣，然后哇地大哭起来。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">女孩妈妈面露怨色，手忙脚乱地去哄孩子。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">旁边的一众人看傻了眼，都不说话了。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">孩子奶奶有些尴尬地打圆场，同时责怪自己儿媳妇儿：</span></p><blockquote style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">你这么大人了怎么还这么不懂事？</span></strong></span></p></blockquote><p style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">闺蜜忍着一肚子火，似乎是对那女孩妈妈说话，也似乎是对身边看热闹的一众人说：</span></p><blockquote style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">对不住啊XX（女孩名字）妈妈，我只是想让孩子们明白，该是谁的东西，就是谁的，这是个基本法则。如果谁力气大东西就归谁，谁弱小谁活该，那这个世界不就黑白颠倒啦？</span></strong></span></p></blockquote><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">然后就带着儿子扬长而去。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><img class="" data-backh="427" data-backw="640" data-copyright="0" data-ratio="0.66640625" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201801/11/094756u2xjr9hxpcz8z8ec.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="1280" width="100%" style="width: 668px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"/></p><p style="line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;"><br/></p><section label="Copyright © 2016 playhudong All Rights Reserved." donone="shifuMouseDownPayStyle('shifu_t_054')" style="margin: 1em auto;white-space: normal;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-size: 15px;text-align: center;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><section class="ipaiban" style="padding: 3px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(95, 170, 255);border-radius: 50%;display: inline-block;"><section class="ipaiban" style="border-width: 1px;border-style: dashed;border-color: rgb(95, 170, 255);border-radius: 50%;width: 2em;height: 2em;"><p style="padding-top: 0.28em;"><strong>02</strong></p><p><br/></p></section></section></section><p style="line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;"><br/></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">后来，闺蜜跟我说：那女孩妈妈如今遇见我了基本都绕道走，可是那又怎样呢？</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我则听得哈哈笑，对她着实佩服得紧。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我们都觉得，孩子还小，一根枯树枝这样的东西，实在太微不足道。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我相信，很多父母会像毛毛奶奶一样去打圆场。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">然而，<strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">对孩子来说，对方抢走了我的树枝，跟抢走了我的玩具，破坏了我心爱的宝贝，甚至随意入侵我的界限，践踏我的权利，从本质上说是一样的。</strong></span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">当大人轻描淡写地说出“没事没事”，对孩子到底意味着什么？</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这其实是在跟孩子说：</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">你这根本不算事，你不该这么难受，你难受只说明你太小气了。</span></strong></span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">简言之，你生气是不合理的。</span></strong></span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">说到底，这是在教孩子：被侵犯时，你得忍着。</span></strong></span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这是人为制造的权利的不平等。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">总是这样被对待的孩子，他们很容易在人际冲突中失去反击的勇气。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br data-filtered="filtered" style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"/></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">比如一个朋友家前不久刚遇到的事。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">那天，她老公带兄妹俩去游乐场玩儿。仅仅离开了一小会儿，再回去，发现妹妹哭得稀里哗啦了，脸上和手臂上，都是指甲的挠痕，还有破皮、流血处。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">打人的小孩已经走了，孩子爸也就索性带孩子回家了。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">朋友却按捺不住满肚子的火气。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">她问妹妹，2岁多点儿的妹妹根本表达不清。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">于是改问当时唯独在场目击全程的5岁哥哥：你看到有人打了妹妹吗？</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">哥哥：看到一个弟弟抢妹妹的铲子，妹妹哭了，跟弟弟打起来了。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">妈妈：你有做什么保护妹妹吗？</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">哥哥：我去告诉小弟弟的爷爷奶奶了。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">妈妈：你为什么不当时就把那个弟弟推开？</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">哥哥：弟弟也很小，我去打他推他，他也会哭。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">朋友急了，嗓门也不由得提高了八度：不管他是不是小，他在打人，不管打妹妹还是打你，你都应该反击！</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">哥哥被吓到了，他一脸委屈地答：可是打人是不对的，玩具就是要分享的……</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">说完哇地哭了起来。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">朋友傻眼了。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">哥哥刚刚说的话，不就是自己平日对他反复强调的话吗？</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">每当妹妹去抢哥哥的玩具，乱动哥哥的东西，哥哥不乐意的话，妈妈都会教育他：</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">妹妹那么小，你要让着她呀。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">不能打妹妹！打人不是好孩子。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这个玩具妹妹只是玩一下下，马上就还你，你要做个爱分享的好孩子啊！</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">……</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">是的，<strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">是她亲自教会了孩子：</strong></span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">东西被抢了、被欺负了，有情绪、发脾气甚至反抗都是不对的。</span></strong></span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">于是遇到冲突时，这个小孩他会刻意压制自己。</span></strong></span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">也因此，他往往最委屈、也忍得最辛苦。</span><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></strong></span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><img class="" data-backh="427" data-backw="640" data-copyright="0" data-ratio="0.66640625" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201801/11/094756nlzm54m2l4g2uryj.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="1280" width="100%" style="width: 668px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"/></p><p style="line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;"><br/></p><section label="Copyright © 2016 playhudong All Rights Reserved." donone="shifuMouseDownPayStyle('shifu_t_054')" style="margin: 1em auto;white-space: normal;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-size: 15px;text-align: center;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><section class="ipaiban" style="padding: 3px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(95, 170, 255);border-radius: 50%;display: inline-block;"><section class="ipaiban" style="border-width: 1px;border-style: dashed;border-color: rgb(95, 170, 255);border-radius: 50%;width: 2em;height: 2em;"><p style="padding-top: 0.28em;"><strong>03</strong></p><p><br/></p></section></section></section><p style="line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;"><br/></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">所以，如果孩子的东西被抢了，你会怎么办？</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">如果你的孩子还很小（5岁以内），他手里的一个玩具，一本书，一只皮球，抑或只是一片从地上捡来的树叶子被抢走了，</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">如果他可怜兮兮看向你，你会碍于面子安慰孩子，还是干脆帮孩子要回来？</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">答案当然是后者。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></p><ul class=" list-paddingleft-2" style=""><li><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">物归原主，首先可以教会抢东西的孩子：</span></strong></span></p></li></ul><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">谁的东西归谁，这是人际关系中最起码的界限。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">一个小小孩子抢别人的东西，乍一看是无关紧要的。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">比如闺蜜儿子遇到的那个小女孩，看起来伶牙俐齿，甚至你还会觉得可爱。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">但如果等长大了这个孩子在抢了别人的东西，仍然只会站在自己的角度看问题，那么事情就不再会有趣可爱了。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这样的孩子若习惯了被满足，那么在人际交往中遇到有人拒绝她，她很可能无法承受。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">他们长大后，也容易因为不懂尊重别人和别人的界限，而遭遇人际关系上的困境。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">需要提醒的是，对待抢东西的小孩，大人的干预不能仅仅停留在语言上。</span></strong></span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">3-5岁孩子，如果你觉得他做的不对，一定你要帮他从行为上去恢复到对的状态，而不是仅仅告诉他，他不对。</span></strong></span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">这个年龄，孩子的理解能力很有限，一句两句轻描淡写的语言说教很难真正奏效。</span></strong></span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">所以，别以为你的孩子会抢东西、看起来够厉害，甚至还占了小便宜。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">殊不知，当你默许孩子越界行为的时候，你和孩子同样是输家。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></p><ul class=" list-paddingleft-2" style=""><li><p style="max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">物归原主，更能教会被抢东西的孩子：</span></strong><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"></span></span></p></li></ul><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">我们其实能够凭借自己的力量，很好地保护我们自己的权益。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">哪怕是在多子女家庭，该是哪个孩子的东西，就归哪个。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">如果家里老二太小，哭闹着想玩老大的玩具老大却不肯，这时最好的办法，不是教训老大，逼他分享、出让自己的界限，而是抱走小的，转移小宝宝的注意力。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">知道一直要求孩子忍让，最要命的后果是什么吗？</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">是一旦遇上校园霸凌，他们基本就没跑了。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">从这个角度说，父母通过言行亲自告诉孩子：你不必退让，真的非常非常重要。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">如果一个孩子在父母的权威强压之下，早早习惯了隐忍和服从，甚至讨好，那么当他遭遇霸凌之时，他的概念里是没有“反抗”二字的。</span></strong></span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">甚至连求助可能都不会有。</span></strong></span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">他会下意识地认定：表达是没有用的，反抗也是没有用的，我只能默默承受。</span></strong></span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">若一个孩子总被校园霸凌者“欺负”却无力回击，那么很可能他已经在自己的家里，被自己最亲的人，“欺负”过百次千次了。</span></p><p style="margin-top: 20px;font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><img class="" data-backh="425" data-backw="640" data-copyright="0" data-ratio="0.66375" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201801/11/094756nne3558k5s1idi4i.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="800" width="100%" style="width: 668px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;visibility: visible !important;"/></p><p style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br/></p><p style="line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;"><br/></p><section label="Copyright © 2016 playhudong All Rights Reserved." donone="shifuMouseDownPayStyle('shifu_t_054')" style="margin: 1em auto;white-space: normal;color: rgb(89, 89, 89);font-size: 15px;text-align: center;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><section class="ipaiban" style="padding: 3px;border-width: 1px;border-style: solid;border-color: rgb(95, 170, 255);border-radius: 50%;display: inline-block;"><section class="ipaiban" style="border-width: 1px;border-style: dashed;border-color: rgb(95, 170, 255);border-radius: 50%;width: 2em;height: 2em;"><p style="padding-top: 0.28em;"><strong>04</strong></p><p><br/></p></section></section></section><p style="line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;"><br/></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">无论是任由孩子东西被抢而不作为的父母，还是默许孩子抢东西的父母，其实都犯了一个相同的错，那就是界限模糊。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">父母界限模糊，孩子没法真正过得自在。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">有界限的家庭，才能真正养出懂得保护自己、在人际关系中知道分寸的孩子。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">何为有界限的家庭？它一般会有以下特征：</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="font-size: 15px;"><strong style="max-width: 100%;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">有爱的。民主的，容许不同意见的存在。</span></strong></span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">再往细一点说，这个家庭应该是这样的：</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">不强迫孩子分享。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">不随意处置孩子的所有物。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">鼓励孩子用语言说出自己的需要。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">当孩子觉得不舒服，允许他理直气壮地说不。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">接纳孩子的坏脾气，不害怕孩子的负面情绪和感受。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">尊重孩子的界限；不以爱的名义要求孩子绝对服从自己。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">保有父母自己的底线；不因为爱的缘故，一味服从孩子。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">上述最后一点最重要，也最难做到。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">因为难，才更要我们去努力。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">父母自己一定要有自己的底线和必要的界限。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">父母是有界限的父母，孩子也才能够有空间去发展属于他们的力量。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">还是《破产姐妹》中的MAX说的好：</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"><br/></span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><img class="" data-copyright="0" data-ratio="0.7026378896882494" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201801/11/094757ydpuzdpw71eeicu7.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="417" width="auto" style="box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;width: auto !important;visibility: visible !important;"/></p><p style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><img class="" data-copyright="0" data-ratio="0.7194244604316546" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201801/11/094757yr8pgrfzgftmsgmg.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="417" width="auto" style="box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;width: auto !important;visibility: visible !important;"/></p><p style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><img class="" data-copyright="0" data-ratio="0.6587112171837709" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201801/11/094756qqw4drnwnm3z14bq.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="419" width="auto" style="box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;width: auto !important;visibility: visible !important;"/></p><p style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><img class="" data-copyright="0" data-ratio="0.7577937649880095" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201801/11/094756rlbyx8do9d0o9zxe.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="417" width="auto" style="box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;width: auto !important;visibility: visible !important;"/></p><p style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><img class="" data-copyright="0" data-ratio="0.6304347826086957" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201801/11/094756qvigx9tcfi9i999n.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="414" width="auto" style="box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;width: auto !important;visibility: visible !important;"/></p><p style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><img class="" data-copyright="0" data-ratio="0.6595238095238095" data-s="300,640" src="data/attachment/forum/201801/11/094758f787pimskvjwas6l.jpg" data-type="jpeg" data-w="420" width="auto" style="box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;width: auto !important;visibility: visible !important;"/></p><p style="font-size: 16px;line-height: 25.6px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);text-align: center;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><br/></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">习惯了屈从父母和他人的孩子，他只会把自己过得越来越卑微，却很难学会真正为自己的需要和自己的人生负责。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">真正被父母被尊重的孩子，他走上社会，才有能力对糟糕的、坏的事情说不。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">他才懂得珍视自己，以及自己的需要。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">也才真正不惧怕，不讨好，不卑不亢，真正活出属于他们自己的人生。</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;"> </span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;background-color: rgb(255, 255, 255);"><span style="max-width: 100%;color: #666666;font-size: 15px;box-sizing: border-box !important;word-wrap: break-word !important;">你愿意自己的孩子，拥有哪样的人生？欢迎在留言区留言~</span></p><p style="font-size: 16px;white-space: normal;max-width: 100%;min-height: 1em;color: rgb(62, 62, 62);line-height: 2em;box-sizing: border-box 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